Conflict is Positive

This lecture was actually really interesting and during it I kept thinking about how it applies to my life. When we took the test in class I found that my personal approach to conflict is Compromising and my secondary one is Accommodating. I scored in the high range in compromising so I'm going to answer those questions.

The first question is whether I concentrate so heavily on the practicalities and tactics of compromising that I sometimes lose sight of larger issues. I personally do not think that this is true. I find that in compromising I'm usually pretty assertive. However, this is only is a work/school setting. In a personal setting I am a lot less assertive and when compromising I won't compromise my standards but I will usually let the other person get their way more.
The second question is does an emphasis on bargaining and trading create a cynical climate of gamesmanship? I have definitely never felt this way before. When I compromise it is usually a good thing and everyone feels pretty happy about it. I feel like when I compromise we are usually trying to make everyone feel like equals so the bargaining isn't the main focus of the compromise.

So, I find that I am actually really awful at conflict resolution. In a business/work/school setting I'm honestly not that bad at it. I find it easy to work with groups in a setting like that and that I don't have problems coming up with resolutions. However, even though I scored in compromising and accommodating I think that in my personal life I am very much avoiding. I hate having to confront people and I would rather pretend that the problem hasn't happened then try to talk to the person about it.
It's funny because in the couple a days before the lecture a big conflict was starting to form between another girl in my ward and myself. I'd been think about how I needed to talk to this girl and how I really didn't want to when we had the lecture. In the last week I have been basically avoiding confronting the conflict, because I really can not see any bright side at the end of the tunnel if I talk to her. However, now that we have had a lesson on conflict I realize that if I just keep putting of the issue it is just going to get a lot worse. Even though I really don't want to talk to her, I now realize that I have. I haven't yet, because I'm not sure what exactly to say to her, but I plan on it and now I feel a little better prepared for the conflict. I am going to try to remember that conflict can be positive and that hopefully working things out will be better than avoiding it.